I'm sitting on my couch right now, with my feet up and it feels fabulous. I've spent the last few days reflecting on gratitude and all the things in my life to be thankful about. I have so many blessings in my life! Here are my top ten favorites:
1. My Husband. He will always be my number one. He has always been such a source of support in our marriage, but it has been even more amplified in the last few months of our pregnancy. He has been at EVERY doctors appointment, held my hand every time I have had my blood drawn (which sure seems like a lot these days!), helped comfort me when I've had an emotional moment about the size of my booty, my lack of clothing, that I can't reach my feet, or that I get out of breath every time I go up the stairs. He truly is the most amazing gift I have ever been received.
2. My Family and Friends. They say it takes a village, and I totally plan on putting that to the test. So far I've received countless offerings of support from friend and family to help us out as we balance three jobs, broken furnaces, and more. Whether it be a cooked meal, watching our Precious Baby Wilbur when we are stuck late at work, or even picking me up when I had to abandon my car because I couldn't drive (hello leg pain). Thank you all so much.
3. Baby Girl. We haven't officially met, but I can already tell you are going to be a riot. You already have such a little personality in there! Husband and I are looking forward to all the adventures we will have and watching you grow. We love you so, so very much.
4. Precious Baby Wilbur. Oh my sweet, sweet Precious Baby Wilbur. Sometimes you are a barky little butt-head, but we love you so very much. Thank you for all the hugs (yes, dogs can give hugs, even with tiny short legs), the puppy kisses, the snuggles, and the many laughs. We are so happy to have you as our firstborn.
5. Our Jobs. I am so thankful for the jobs we have. For Husband's job which he finds so much joy in, which helps support us, and covers our healthcare needs. Oh healthcare, what would I do without you! I am thankful for my day job which provides me the opportunity to work with great friends and learn new things. I am also thankful for my Stella & Dot career, which has provided so much growth for me as a person and a friend. And has provided extra income that helps us pay for unexpected expenses (eh hem... new furnace) and will provide extra money for us so I can take maternity leave when Baby Girl arrives.
6. Our Home. I bought our home many moons ago, as a single woman, looking for a place to hang my hat at night. Since then, we've painted and improved and really made this place feel like our own. I may have been slightly cursing this house when the furnace finally broke, but at the end of the day I am so, so grateful that we have a roof over our head, a place that is "ours", and somewhere we can grow our family, spend time with friends, and play outside. Having a sense of "home" is so important, because it grounds us and gives us a peaceful home base.
7. Creativity. For the first part of my business career (or essentially when I got out of school) I spent all my time at a desk, nose to the grindstone, working away for crazy hours. In the past few years I have focused on making more time in my life (albeit not quite as much as I would like) to just be creative. You can define creative in many different ways. For me, I choose to express mine creativity through this blog, photography, decorating our home, and fashion. Doing so has made me feel so much more whole. Like a complete version of myself.
8. Health. Oh my word, I've never been so focused on my health as I have been the last few months. Growing another human, having countless tests done, and visiting the doctors every month REALLY makes you conscious on what your body is doing and how it is handling change. I am so thankful that our family is healthy. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
9. Events. So this one may seem a bit weird, but I am so happy to have a life full of events and opportunities to see friends, meet new people, and be social. Whether its a book club (okay, I haven't 100% launched this one yet but it's in the works), my ladies Bunko Nights (hey!!), the Stella & Dot shows I do where fabulous women invite me to their home and share their BFF's with me, gatherings with friends, etc. it's so important for me to have these venues to get out and be social. And knowing that we are expecting our little one in a few months, I feel like these events are going to become even more crucial to my sanity!
10. My Customers. Thank you to every person who has bought a bracelet, a necklaces, a bag, a gift, or a little something for themselves whatever it may be from me in the past year. Having the opportunity to help you all define your style and gift gorgeous jewelry has been SO MUCH FUN! I appreciate every transaction, big or small, and every time you opened your home and friends to me so we could all hang out! Thank you for giving me this great career and for all the fun and joyous moments that come along with it.
It's been close to eight months since my last hair cut... I know. Hairdressers are gasping in horror at me right now. Part of this is because I was growing my hair out, so I thought... what's the point of cutting it? The other is that I am just plain lazy. But alas, I am finally getting my hair cut in the next few days. And I desperately need it. My ends are horrendous. And it's so split at the ends that it essentially won't even hold a curl anymore. It just frizzes.
So anyhow, in preparation for my hair cut I've been spending time on Pinterest trying to figure out what I want to do. You have to be careful on Pinterest and make sure you set reasonable expectations. You spend too much time on there and you think you can watch a youtube and suddenly have Angelina Jolie hair with lots of body and bounce. My hair will never be Angelina Jolie hair. Instead, I searched for "long, thin hair styles". Those are my descriptors right now. It's long, and it's thin. There is a lot of it, but its so fine you wouldn't even know it. And it tangles like nobodies business!
I'm pretty sure what's going to happen is I am going to get layers. I want to add some movement to my hair. I also feel like since it's mostly one length it just kind lays their lifeless. And I also have this vision that by shedding all the dead stuff at the end my hair will magically transform like a caterpillar to a butterfly and the wind will blow through my hair and it will be like one of those shampoo commercials. And my teeth will be perfectly straight and white and I'll look like a super star. #reasonableexpectations
Stay tuned for the after reveal!!
Behold my newest accessory. It's called the Belly Band, or Pregnancy Support Band, and it essentially helps you hold up your big old baby bump.
I've had some muscle strain during my pregnancy. Nothing too severe, just your typical aches and pains in the back and legs from your body expanding. I mean if you think about, it makes sense. Things are shifting and stretching and you are carrying more weight. Of course things start to hurt. But then I got to work on Monday and I could barely walk.
I was getting this REALLY sharp pain in front of my hip - sort of where your leg connects to your hip joint? (if that makes any sense?) Sharp pains when you are pregnant are generally not good. I was pretty confident that it wasn't the actually in relation to the baby because it wasn't my torso that hurt; it was everything AROUND my torso - my back, my hip, and all the way down through my leg. So being the totally rational mom-to-be that I am, I called my doctor in a panic. They ran me through a list of questions, and decided everything sounded okay and I probably just pulled something. Okay, I can live with that.
Cut to four hours later and the pain is SO BAD I literally am fighting back tears as I am sitting in my staff lunch meeting at work. I ended up limping out. I thought - I have to go lay down. So I tried to drive myself home and it hurt so bad I just steered myself to the doctor. Full exam later, I've pulled the ligaments in my hips. These ligaments support your baby bump and hold it up. The prescription? I went home and laid on my couch for eight hours straight waiting for the pain to go away and I was told to wear this gorgeous Pregnancy Support Band for the remainder of my pregnancy.
The pain was mostly gone Tuesday when I woke up. I stayed home to rest more and wore my band all day. I have to be super careful how I sit though and make sure I don't have my legs folded for too long (think of when you are sitting in a chair) or else it starts to pinch up again. I'm hoping this doesn't severely impact my mobility for the next trimester. I'd like to be able to walk around, run errands, do they typical type stuff of every day. To be honest though, after a few hours of moving I feel like I need to lay back down. Maybe this is because I am all flared up? Or maybe this is because my body is just starting to max out from carrying this baby weight. Either way, I will be rocking this support band for a while. And I am probably going to have to rethink my desk situation at work. I'm not sure I can sit in a traditional desk chair for eight hours a day. One of my coworkers recommended I try a yoga ball... maybe that would help?
Have any of you had issues with your ligaments from supporting your belly? Any tips on how to reduce the discomfort or support bands that worked best for you??
1. My friend Jewels who took the most gorgeous pictures of us for our Holiday Cards!
2. Precious Baby Wilbur and I getting ready for the photo shoot. I swear I will use any excuse to stick a bow tie on him!
3. Wilbur and I sharing an ice cream. He always gets the last few licks.
4. Daily jewelry essentials
5. My team and I! I just love this black and white!!! Maybe it needs to be a canvas :)
6. Baby bump photo! She just keeps getting bigger and bigger!
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photo credit: Owls Eye Photography
My biggest fear when I first joined a direct sales company was that people (namely my friends) would find me creepy. We've all met that person - the one you can't talk to without them bringing up something they think you should buy. Awkward. Let me say that again - AWKWARD. At first, this fear made it difficult for me to talk about what I do, but slowly and over the past year I have found a way to be more comfortable with telling people about my business in a way that I feel is authentic and non-pressuring. I know this is something a lot of other people struggle with, so I wanted to share my top tips for working in direct sales and not being that "creepy sales person".
1. Talk about what you do without trying to sell. If direct sales is big part of your life, you can share your life with your friends without always trying to sell them something. Talk about how you spend your days, the awesome people you are meeting, personal achievements you are realizing with your business, etc. just like you would any job you are proud of! You don't have to be fearful to share about what makes you happy and energized. This type of sharing helps strengthen your relationship with people in your life, rather than distance you. And if they ever decide they want something, they know what you do and how to find you! Trust me, they will call (or text).
2. Offer your products, but don't be upset if people don't want them. When I go shopping at the mall with my friends, its totally normal for us to show each other things. Something along the lines of "omg look at this sweater - you'd look so cute in it!". Sometimes they love what we showed them, and sometimes they are like "dude - you are crazy, that is hideous". And then we go "okay" and set it back down. No skin off our nose right? It's not like we have any vested interest in if they buy it. To be successful, you have to have this same mentality about your product you sell. Don't defend it, don't talk them into it. Your job is to help them find what they are looking for, not what you are selling. If those two align, great! If not, move on. You don't want people to feel pressured to buy from you. No one likes to make a living that way.
3. Ask people to join your team because it will help them, not you. Okay, let's just get this out there. People always call direct sales "pyramid schemes". Personally, I use to think this was true about them as well. And pyramid schemes have such a creepy connotation. But I am a pretty smart person (or so my masters degree says) and when you look at the way a direct sales "pyramid" is set, it's actually pretty close to any regular business. The pyramid is a typical business goes: the CEO, the managers, and the employees. The difference with direct sales is that you don't need to wait for someone above you to see you potential in order for you to promote; you automatically promote with direct sales based on how hard you work. Simple as that. And while I am on my soap box, I have to point out that the company I work for won't allow someone who is "higher on the pyramid" to receive any coaching commissions off another team member unless they are also selling themselves - no slacking allowed! So with that out of the way, the most crucial thing about growing your team in direct sales is you have to be focused on how doing this could help THE OTHER PERSON. Sure, when people on my team promote, it helps me out. But you know what, I'm not really motivated by that. The reason I get excited to help them grow is because how it impacts their life. You should feel this way about it when you offer someone the opportunity to join your team. Do they need an excuse to get out of the house and see their friends? Do they need extra money or financial freedom? Think about how you can help them. This kind of authenticity will show during your discussions with them.
4. Don't badger. As a direct sales consultant, I can hook. you. up. And I honestly, truly feel that way. If you want free jewelry, we can do a show for you! If you want a good deal, let me know and I'll watch your piece and send you an urgent text when it goes on a 48 hour sale. It's the same thing I'd want any friend to do for me! But if that's not something you are interested in, either because you don't want to host, or aren't interested in the products, that's cool too! I promise I won't bring it up every time we see each other. I understand what "no" means, and as your friend I respect your no. I may check back in three to six months to see if you changed your mind, but only because I don't want you to miss out. And if you say no again, then I'll drop it.
5. Love what you do. If you are in direct sales just to make money, and don't really care about your product, it will show. You will come off as slimy. If you love the product you sell, love working with people to help them find what they need, and truly just love what you do, that will shine through. That is the type of energy people like working with. And when you offer to help them with something, they will see and feel the genuineness behind your offer. And that, my friends, it the ultimate way to avoid being "that creepy sales person".
Do you work in direct sales? Or have you had a good or bad encounter with someone else who does? I would love to hear your tips as well! What has worked for you or what came across as icky?!